We left our home in Los Angeles just before Christmas, 2013. We lived in a quaint one bedroom house with a front yard and driveway (gold in LA), complete with white picket fence and a red front door and giant tree with a swing made from a salvaged surf board. The side fences were the perfect grey aged wood. Tall white and purple flowers lined the porch. Roses in every shade and scent grew at the fence. We had a fire pit in the back yard and BBQ’s were our chosen way to celebrate every occasion.
The grass is always greener. I our case “quaint” meant every three months we had major construction on the house. The bedroom barely fit our bed with room to leave walking space to get to the bathroom located quite literally at the foot of the bed. The white picket fence was stable, only because we rebuilt it after the original one fell over. And our grass was brown.
That old adage of “The grass is always greener on the other side” is a well known proverb for a very good reason: We require perspective - to see for ourselves if what we have is enough and is the very best. Jealousy and discontentment are usually in the mix of our decision making, but genuine curiosity and exploration also peak us to cross to the other side to find out if what we perceive as better is actually better. The desire to explore and to create and to challenge ourselves is part of what drives our curiosity to cross the fences. And the need to do those good things should outweigh and correct our initial thoughts of jealousy and discontentment. Taking the opportunity to look at our reasons, putting things into their proper place and utilizing the time and tools that we have has shown us not that the grass is greener, softer and more pleasant, but that it doesn’t matter. We’d like to explore that field anyway.
Despite the long and at times unpleasant path that we took to realize that we harbored a quieted desire to continue exploring and learning, the things we found along the way were invaluable.
What we’ve learned is to adapt. Location and circumstance aside, we have found ourselves stronger and more resilient than we ever gave ourselves opportunity to be, while still remaining flexible and ready for change. Our next location is still unknown, our next year is still up for anything with nothing on the books and the rest of our life is yet to be unlocked. After the humbling year we have lived, we are unwilling to give up the lessons we’ve learned just to live a comfy life in what we know. We are ready for the adventure of the unknown and for the nomad life to be lived.